Mind Your Own Business With Mike And Matt
No one questions that the brain changes with the experiences the mind undergoes. If thought has a physical basis, as scientists assume, then it produces physical alterations in the brain. Trauma and addiction can lead to lasting problems; even fleeting events may leave the chemical changes in the brain that we experience as memory. In fact, “plasticity” is a pallid descriptor for the constant, ongoing transformation of brain tissue. Neurons reach out to each other through tiny membranous protusions, often forming new synapses.
The person might be curious about the other person’s private life. He or she might also feel left out, and believe that by getting involved, he or she will fit in better. Lastly, the person might simply care or feel concerned for the other person.
It was madness, but the business self-help literature encouraged people to “surf the chaos,” nourishing themselves on caffeine and adrenaline. If we needed to unclutter our minds, we were directed to the gym and an hour or so of intense physical activity. A trim muscular body, combined with an ever-flickering gaze, signified executive status.
Of course, I’m not suggesting that you act outside of your integrity, treat other people poorly, or be narcissistic. After all, we live in a society where there are certain agreements we make with each other to help things run smoothly. We can accept that some people are high strung, they talk loudly, are sometimes late, they like things we think are boring, believe things we don’t believe in, or do things we don’t agree with. And these are just a few ways that we don’t mind our own business or try to take on someone else’s business. One of the first concepts I teach students in my retreats and workshops is the importance of minding your own business.
We can observe ourselves, our activity, and our state of mind. Minding your own business means being the self-observer. Some feelings are fleeting and don’t require attention while others can be useful. Remember, while feelings are often helpful, they are not always trustworthy.